Joseph jumps back into Headstart for a cameo appearance and writes the match summary for our final Unspoken talk - "I have so little time and so much to do" Taking the Fear out of FOMO. Joseph has been so busy at work that he hasn't been able to make Headstart at all this term, but i guess FOMO kicked in and he came for the last one! Check out his summary below.
The buffet equation
Have you ever been to an all you eat buffet? If so, you know this dilemma well: Do I stack more food or settle with what I have on my plate?
Mark shared (probably a bit too much) of his preference to buffets and how there’s always more options – no he did say opportunities – to eat tasty food. That’s a lot like us but instead with life. For many, there are multiple opportunities on weekends, options for jobs and we feel like life is maximising the opportunities we have – we really do say “I've got too much to do but I don't have enough time” and this time, FOMO kicks in.
FOMO and us
Mark took us through some academic studies which showed that FOMO affects our health – those with FOMO are discontent and fell less needs satisfaction and life satisfaction. Also, while an overweight, fish n chip eating 60 year old may be high risk for a heart attack, young workers who use are on Facebook are the high risk group of FOMO. FOMO can affect anyone but it disproportionately affects young folks. So – how do we lower the risks? What are the “exercises” we need to be healthy again?
Mark tried to take the 'Fear' out of FOMO, leaving us living with OMO. However, many might think what detergents have to do with this?
(Geez Wisoot – it’s obvious, isn’t it? We need detergent to wash out our headspace so we know how to respond to FOMO? that aint half bad now that I think about it)
The Choice Equation
We tend to think that the more choices we have, the more free we've become. But in fact, maximising choice limits our freedom. Barry Schwatz book “the Paradox of Choice” makes the case that in abundance we are less satisfied. More has lead to less. In make, more choice leads to 3 negative points.
- When too many choices are given, we are less likely to be able to make decision. Decision paralysis kicks in. It's difficult to process through all the choices and the increased possibility of the better option cripples us.
- Even we choose something out of time limitation, we are prone to mess up our choices. We are more likely to make a hasty and rash decision.
- After we choose something, we are less happy and satisfied. We immediately regret our choices, and feel locked out from the rest of the options. A double whammy - Regret + Opportunity Cost kicks in.
How do we, as Christians, combat FOMO
1. God never owes us. Romans 11:25 pictures God as having to never repay anyone. So choices that are given to us, even it is just one, are good. We are never jipped or shortchanged by our God.
2. Don’t let opportunities become your master. 2 Peter 2:19 is telling – “for a man is a slave to whatever masters him.” If we equate choice with freedom, then choice becomes our master and we it’s slave. We will never rest until we have exhausted all options. This is just idolatry under a sneaky guise.
3. Even when we have no opportunities, God can turn bad into good. The story of Jesus on the cross has proven this. God turned the ultimate defeated into ultimate victory. So no matter how bad our situation is, God can turn it to be good.
4. Change our mindset to be satisficer rather than maximiser. Good enough is good. We don’t need to find the perfect opportunities – job, family, partner – we actually are complete and perfect as we are. We don’t need anything else.